I recently read a quote I loved and it applies to dating and this idea of taking a sabbatical to re-assess: We can’t always be ‘on’ and looking for love. Sometimes our minds aren’t in a romantic place – we have to accept that romance isn’t an everyday thing.
During our downtimes from dating, we can discover a great deal about ourselves – who we are as individuals; what excites us and motivates us, and ultimately, what we want in a relationship and what we can give. But at nearly 33, I’m not sure I want to take a 6 month one.
Pastor Craig Holliday, a minister of the Brooklyn Tabernacle Church in Brooklyn, who suggested a dating fast to the groom (pre meeting his now wife) in the above article, said this about why someone might want to take a dating fast: It’s important because unless you begin to identify the areas in your own life that you need help in, by God’s grace, then all you will do is jump from one bad relationship to the next because you have brought these problems with you.
This also meant that when I was ready to date again, I’d do it for the right reasons. I didn’t have to be stuck on the idea of having romantic love in my life when there were so many other types of love to enjoy every single day.
By not obsessing about romantic love, I could appreciate the other kinds.
It’s time to reevaluate your previous relationships, and your recent break-up, and see where things started to go wrong. When it comes to analyzing yourself, don’t be an ostrich.
After a break-up, it’s very easy to fall into another relationship and make the same mistakes all over again. Before you can successfully get involved with and have a “healthy” love relationship with someone else, you must first get involved with yourself!