Then again, the demographics of my clients are probably a bit skewed towards upper-middle class white people.Money quote: The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race.After a lot of dates with a lot ofwomen, I noticed two things: #1: It takes a special set of skills and insights to pass a woman’s tests and graduate from first-dater to “boyfriend material,” the kind of man she wants to share fulfilling, long-term intimacy with.#2: The longer I continued to fail these tests, the more I started to feel like something wonderful was missing from my life — also known as having a great GIRLFRIEND.Here’s how much less interested they were in the other races, as compared with their enthusiasm for men of their own race: Click here to read the whole article: Update: But wait, there’s some “good news” from those same researchers.A few days later, after looking at 300 reader comments, researchers sent some surprising news back. Eastwick, Inter-racial dating is the majority of what I have done since I began dating!As they sit across the table from a woman, most guys are busy planning, worrying about what to say and do next or worse — just not being interested. Until a man is confident and comfortable enough to be totally “present,” he’ll never connect with a woman in the moment, let alone for the future. It will be painfully obvious that he’s not hearing or caring about what she has to say. I know what you’re thinking…and you’re totally wrong.
Basically, instead of being over the top with flashy gifts, expensive dinners, and obvious compliments, true thoughtfulness is telling her that you were thinking of her today when she wasn’t around(by the way…going too far in one direction or another in what they say and do.For example, I always say that confidence and humor go a long way toward succeeding with women, but too many guys act like a “jerk,” coming across as unfunny, insulting or arrogant.———– Get more life-changing facts about why great women instantly see some guys as “boyfriend material”… Acclaimed “Double Your Dating” author David De Angelo reveals his most powerful tools and techniques for escaping a life of serial dating, failure and rejection in his FREE “Dating Secrets” newsletter.Women nearly universally display a social behavior with men they like that's often referred to as "testing." Testing is what women do when they're looking to see if a man is strong and congruent with himself; in other words, if he really is all the man he's presenting himself to be.But when it comes to whether she’ll see you as boyfriend material, thoughtfulness takes on a whole other meaning.