Sharing too soon may scare the person off and sharing too late may lead to a lack of trust.
Amber Miller, a 26-year-old college student in Oklahoma City, was waiting to tell Josh about her type one diabetes. So when he didn’t hear from her for a month while she was recovering from a diabetic coma, he expected the worst.“Josh thought I broke up with him because none of my family told him about the coma and he didn’t hear from me for a month,” Miller said.
And then there are people like the person in the forum who wrote, “No, no, and no!!Some people just don’t want to end up caregivers or to mix “world,” as the girlfriend put it in the film “50/50”—starring Joseph Gordon Levitt as a cancer patient.Others nip the idea in the bud, since they can’t imagine losing someone they love to a disease (even though 7 out of 10 deaths in the United States are from disease according to a report published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.)These are often the objections the chronically ill face from people who aren’t sick. Too depressing.”Swindells has up to 10 seizures a month, which is nothing compared to the 15 to 40 she had every day before her brain surgery at age 17.Besides, if he was anything like other guys she had pursued, she didn’t think he’d be able to handle it. For Pierce, the most extreme cases were when the doctor told her parents she wouldn’t make it through the night, either because she had stopped breathing or was dangerously anemic, weighing in at 63 pounds.On more ordinary days, she experiences stomach issues and a chronic cough, among other non-terminal-but-annoying symptoms caused by medicines that suppress her illnesses.“I was like, ‘Oh yeah, I was in a coma.’”The classic coma excuse.