I came along, read her profile and out of everything she mentioned, I decided to pick on that and use it as “ammo”to start a conversation. Much to her surprise, it was a comment in favour of something she wrote on her profile which caught my eye—rather than putting it in the message box, I put it in the title to grab her attention, and up till this day, I have kept it.
It wasn’t the most interesting thing on her profile—that’d be quite sad. You may have similar interested, a compatible personality—you could be everything they are looking for, however even that may not be enough for some people.
What is the point crafting a well-thought out message if it doesn’t get opened, or worse, seen?
From childhood, men have been brought up to be fierce competitors, to opt for the most risky jobs, to put themselves on the line, to accept rejection “like a man” and to always make the first move.
This product of social conditioning rears its ugly head online even more so, as an average of seven men compete for the attention of one woman.
According to research, women who send messages to men are twice as likely to receive a response compared to men who start conversations.
While it does require less effort for women to get responses from the opposite sex, they’re not really in the best position, as they have to dig through a lot of junk before they find any substance.
Headlines are just as important as the content in your message.