A person who constantly makes plans and then cancels them, or who can talk on the phone only at certain times of the day, either has an incredibly demanding job or is not quite as single as she claims.
It’s sad, but many married people troll dating sites, either looking for some action on the side or just seeking validation.
But according to TODAY’s “This is 50” survey results, only 18 percent of single people in their 50s said they were dating.
On the positive side, the age 50-plus daters seem to be pretty darn smart when choosing a date-mate.
What’s not okay is to expect potential suitors to conform to a long list of demands.
If you see a profile that specifies a required height/weight, salary, or supermodel looks, or includes domineering phrases like “I need …” or “I won’t tolerate …,” consider whether you could ever live up to this person’s impossible standards.
Maggie from New York City specified in her profile that she wanted to meet someone between the ages of twenty-five and thirty-five who lived in Manhattan, so receiving emails from sixty-five-year-old men who lived a hundred miles away was not amusing.
Someone who blatantly disregards what you’ve stated you’re looking for is simply wasting your time.
It’s okay to state some basic requirements, such as whether you’re willing to date someone who smokes or who has children.Some practiced daters have a standard letter they send to every single person they find even mildly attractive.Someone who truly wants to get to know you will take the time to write a personalized message responding to specific items in your profile, not send a generic cut-and-paste letter saying, “Hey girl, I saw your profile and was intrigued …” Think about the hundreds of other people who’ve gotten the same letter, and decide whether you’re willing to accept only the barest minimum of effort.If your date instructs you never to call on evenings and weekends or will call you only from a restricted number, there’s a good chance that she’s trying to keep you a secret.You’ve done it—you’ve found a person online who seems to be perfect for you.It’s great conversation fodder when someone displays snapshots of himself on vacation or out with friends, but it’s reasonable to expect at least one clear picture of his face.