, but if you simply can't, don't limit yourself to being his woman on the side, continue to investigate other relationship options.If you can't bring yourself to do so, you are going to be very lonely at times.Set a time limit in your mind as to how long you are willing to wait on the sidelines keeping your own life on hold and stick to it.Do you want a relationship that you don't have to hide? And you’ll definitely never see him on birthdays and Christmas. You will tire of hearing ‘if only I’d met you 10 years ago.’ 9. You find yourself going out less and less with friends, in case he can spare an hour to see you. Forget planning a nice romantic weekend away, there will always be some reason why it doesn’t happen. The awful cocktail of emotions when (not if) someone finds out about your affair – fear they’ll tell his wife, shame and, weirdly, some small relief.
What you can expect when engaged in this type of relationships are a lot of spontaneous changes in your ability to see each other.be ready to see him each and every time he can slip away because he suddenly is available unexpectedly.Although you may be tempted to take advantage of sharing that special, limited time with him, you will not allow this to occur as it shows him that he is your number one priority, although you are not his primary concern. There is no way for him to maintain two honest and open relationships in this situation . In many ways they can seem more mature, attractive and have their lives more together than their shambolic single counterparts. Too many nights of looking stunning in your new outfit only to be admired by the cat as you’re let down yet again. In the unlikely event of being seen out anywhere by anyone he knows, you will be introduced as his niece/ cousin/ babysitter. If he has kids it’s highly unlikely he wants more, even though your imagination is working overtime dreaming of your own little family together. You can never just phone him when you’re having a bad day. And sadly, as some grow bored of what they have at home, there’s apparently no shortage of them looking to cheat. As well as the big, glaring explanations for avoiding these – feeling bad about yourself and playing a part in ruining a relationship and possibly a family – there’s other things that will leave you with a bad taste in your mouth. If these are things necessary to your happiness, you must take them into account when deciding whether to continue your affair or not.