I found out about it 3 years ago, and now the Sex Addiction has reared it’s ugly head. About 2 years ago, I moved to his home country with him and now we are married, no kids, a house and 2 great jobs. I would say that I am attractive, smart and successful myself.I have been with my husband for 5 1/2 years and we met while I was in university. Together, from the outside, we must look like the perfect couple. 3 years ago, while we still lived in the US, I found out something extremely shocking.I confronted him again and he swore that he was just looking and he doesn’t do this regularly.I stupidly believed, as I genuinely thought that this man had the heart of a saint – warm, kind, just a dream, really.I am emotionally drained, but I am hoping that by sharing my story, I will feel at least a little better.
Long story short, we never sought therapy for it and I forgave him because I didn’t think he had any kind of addiction – I had never even heard of a sex addict. A year ago, I was visiting the US for 2 weeks and came back and was on the computer when I saw the history of web pages, I saw that he was on a pornography website.
Hello Jo Ann, I found your website a couple of days ago and am so glad I found it.
I just found out about my husband’s secret earlier this week.
He spoils me in every way and I love him very much. Then earlier this week I was on the computer again and his work email was up. 99.9% was work, but there was 3 email exchanges that he had had with a brief girlfriend back in the states that I opened – he had just written them day before. She had originally contacted him, asking him how he was.
He started to bring up history – most shockingly, he told her that HE WAS NOT MARRIED, but he “lived with a girl”.